As someone who has reached “middle age” (a year until that “big” birthday), I have likely made over a million decisions in my life. Even though the little decisions you make each day can have a major impact on your life, the BIG decisions can really affect your life goals.
In the last six years, I have made some major life decisions including:
- Changing jobs three times
- Purchasing two investment properties
- Helping my husband with his retirement decision
- Buying a car
- Helping my oldest child choose a college
- Downshifting from a full-time career to part-time work
And by the fall of 2017, we will have made more big decisions including:
- Choosing another undergraduate college (for the youngest child)
- Deciding on a graduate school (wow – can it be time for that already?)
- Buying another car
- Whether to sell our primary house and renovate a rental property to move in to
- Whether to leave my part-time job to for “location independent” work
Wow – that sounds a little overwhelming as I type it out! And those are just the big decisions I know are on the horizon. It is highly likely that other dilemmas will come up!
But I lose a lot less sleep over decisions like this because of what I learned in 2010.
What happened that changed the way I think about making decisions? A course I took in practical decision making in my doctoral program in Educational Leadership.
Prior to 2010, I also made a number of big life decisions. Luckily I had a supportive family and great role models and mentors along the way – so many of my decisions worked out well. But I have also made some really bad decisions too. And when I look back at these, I wish I would have done some things very differently…
I realize that many of you might be thinking – “you know you have to learn from your mistakes” or “experience is your best teacher” (the school of “hard knocks” right?)
I am not disagreeing, but I would add that you can LEARN to make better decisions too (definitely the teacher in me showing through!)
Poor decisions can set you back years on your life goals and they can create tremendous stress that can negatively impact your life, health, and relationships. Is that really what you want?
Are you trying to get out of the debt and stress created by some bad decisions you have already made? Or are you thinking about financial independence or maybe retiring “early”? Your big life decisions really matter! I know that I have been more satisfied with the decisions I have made since I started using a decision-making process. I have definitely had fewer regrets too.
I will be blogging about different decision making strategies and we’ll “dissect” decisions people have made through some interesting case studies (that’s my science education background sneaking in!) If you are interested in being one of my first case studies, feel free to connect with me!
I am also offering some free decision coaching sessions (for a limited time) as I work to better understand how what I have learned can add value to people’s lives. If you have a big decision coming up and you would like to “work the process” click on the “Contact Me” link.
My goal is to take a proactive stance on helping people make smarter decisions by providing a framework to think about decisions in a more comprehensive way. My hope is that we can do this together in a supportive community. I know my life has been changed by reading and participating in other online communities and I hope to be able to “give back” here!
I appreciate your patience and guidance as I gain my “voice” and as my blog evolves. It will definitely be a process (and a real “work in progress…”) But I truly believe in life-long learning and personal growth!
I encourage you to leave comments and to “constructively” disagree when appropriate. But, please “play nice” (yes – ten years of working in a Primary school) and consider that we are all in a different place in life and no one knows an individual’s circumstances.
First post down…on to write some more! Thanks for reading!